The Girlfriend of My Enemy Can't Be My Friend......Damn!

So I have this problem, this problem I've been having for a while now. It just so happens that a lot of the females I befriend or are already friends with tend to get/have boyfriends which results in them not being able to see me because of them. Now I understand when one gets into a committed relationship the amount of communication and visits will go down, that's not where my problem lies. My issue is that their dudes don't want me no where near them.

I mean I can kinda see why they start tripping with the certain dynamics or situations that occur between that certain female and I. Sometimes they hate the fact that their girl tells me pretty much everything about the relationship from the sex to what gets on their nerves and the dudes hate that Im all in their business. Its not like I go digging for the information, they just trust me enough to share intimate details about their lives. Other times are more serious when my friend likes me more than just a friend and vice versa and when their boyfriend notices this fact it causes a bunch of problems for our friendship and their relationship. Now by no means have I helped someone cheat well at least in a physical sense Im not sure about emotionally tho. Either way a few times I have gotten threats from dudes for one reason or another.

So what am I to do? I don't wanna keep losing friends because of this problem. Especially when me and that individual has been through alot or something deep. For example(which is probably a bad one) Last night a friend of mine pretty much told me we can NEVER hang out again because of her boyfriend. She told me we've been through too much and felt too much between us which is absolutely true. Five years of romance, lust, affection, desire, or whatever u wanna title it, its brought us closer together which ironically enough pulled us apart. I decided a long time ago that I wanted to keep her as a friend cause we would never happen and I was cool with that but I guess to her it can't just be a friendship between us. Other friendships in my life are strained in this kinda way and it sucks. Either the dude is jealous/insecure with me around or just very overprotective I don't know. Maybe I just put myself in these awkward positions =/

But in honor of Smiles and our 5 years,
Chas(her) Music: