Im realizing more and more with different people I encounter that one of my biggest flaws is my hero complex. I always have that ideology that I can help someone through talking to them or just hanging with them, you know be there in their moments or pain, sadness, and weakness. But sadly I have not gain much from being this nice or being this reliable I should say. No matter what we've been through if we had some type of good friendship I would help anyway I could. Lately I've been noticing that the things I do, do not matter to some people. No matter whatever we've gone through I seem to be unappreciated. I can't see why I still try to help people, male and female alike, when I don't get anything in return. Its not that I want a reward its just that I want confirmation that my friendship or my relationship with you means something to you or is every one of my deeds disposable. I want to stop but I can't. There are few who do appreciate the advice, the shoulder, the ears I offer to them when they need to get over an emotional & mental ordeal. It bothers me sometimes when I put so much work in for nothing. Maybe Im the one that needs saving......
some people just don't want to be helped.
ReplyDeleteyou are right about that! Unfortunately I still try when I care about the individual....eh its life.
ReplyDeleteA lot of the relationships we have with people are unbalanced. Sometimes you give more than you receive. Just be satisfied with the notion that you were true to yourself and true to your purpose. Don't stress yourself out about people that don't want your help but never retract your extended helping hand. There are people that appreciate your kindness company, and warm words {or abuse}.
ReplyDeleteBe you and never let your circumstances or surrounding people change who you are.